In July 2015 my Father died of advanced metastatic prostate cancer. Diagnosed in December 2007, I had only hope. Hope that he would survive this. Hope there would be a cure. Hope that it was just a bad dream and I had yet to awaken from the nightmare of it all. And then all of a sudden, 8 years turned into 8 days and…he was gone.
Early on in his diagnosis he was outspoken about planning an adventure to Alaska to canoe the Yukon River. He had been stationed at Ft. Greeley in Delta Junction, Alaska and always wanted to return and float the mighty Yukon. After his radical prostatectomy we adventured to Montana in preparation for the Yukon, and spent several days paddling the Missouri and tracing the steps of the Lewis & Clark Expedition along the White Cliff section of the river.
We began talking about the Yukon, said we would do it, but as time went on we began to speak of it less and less and more about the latest cancer treatments and clinical trials. His PSA began to rise. We began researching oncologists with new ideas. We talked about them. Then came chemotherapy. We talked about that. We stopped talking about the Yukon. We talked about Lupron, Firmagon, F-18 Scans, Xofigo and Xtandi, Provenge, Docetaxel and Jevtana. His PSA continued to climb. He traveled from east coast to west coast to meet with new doctors, but never north toward the Yukon. It metastasized to his liver and then his brain. And then he was gone.
His life had been reduced from living it, to struggling to survive it. I know that deep down he still had the desire to canoe the Yukon, and to go off in search of adventure. I am reminded of a quote by Mark Twain from Life on the Mississippi: “Now and then we had a hope that if we lived and were good, God would permit us to be pirates.” I say to men staring down the barrel of prostate cancer that you cannot afford to not go off in search of buried treasure, to seek a new adventure, to take to the seas, the mountains and the rivers. Take a brief interlude and just Go! and forget about the latest clinical trial, the results of the most recent blood test. Put down your laptops and cell phones, put aside your supplements, Boost and Ensure, and embark on an adventure to disengage from the crisis at hand – to be a pirate for an hour, a day, a week…
I go now to the Yukon for my father, and to fulfill his dream. And for all the men, whom like my father, their lives have been reduced to a struggle for survival. I go in the hope that you will join me in my 2,000 mile journey by donating to funding prostate cancer research, awareness and education to help combat a disease that takes the lives of too many men.
10 thoughts on “Why Paddle”
I will be with you in spirit the entire way and I know your Dad will be in that canoe whether you can see him or not!!!
Love you. Thank you:)
So excited and proud of you for setting out on this great adventure in the name and honor and memory of your daddy!
I wanted to help you out a little on your trek because this cause is near and dear to my heart. My dad has also struggled with prostate cancer. He has one more appointment with his oncologist in order to be declared cancer free. It is people like you who go above and beyond to raise money for prostate cancer research and treatment to make this possible. I am so thankful, grateful and appreciative from the bottom of my heart!
I will be sitting here cheering your on every stroke of the way sweet little Gena June ( that is how I always remember you) 🙂 Bless you and safe travels. Keep us updated on your very special journey!
Kathy Luck Caveny
Thank you so much or your kind words, support and donation! It means so much to me. I am so glad to hear that your Dad is going to be OK:)!! It has been a long time since I have seen either of you, Steve too! Please tell everyone hello. All the best, gena
I’m so excited for you!
I love the way you write and your videography is fun to watch. Looking forward to reading and watching more!
You’re so amazing! ((Hugs))
My husband and spoke with your mom and dad about the Yukon and what an adventure it old be. May God bless and protect you on your journey.
I highly respect your hands-on advice to put things down and just GO! Hats off to you Gena! We’re rooting for you! (from Mr. Washburn’s TX daughter)
Thank you Ceci!
Gena, I just heard about your awesome trip, and now you are almost done! Keep up the good work!
Thank you Debbie!